Perhaps the most difficult part of a divorce is when children are involved. Although you and your spouse will likely be involved in several bitter disputes, helping your children understand what’s going on and easing the burden of the process for them will make it a less stressful process for everyone.
Whether you’re just starting a divorce or wrapping up negotiations, thinking about some of the strategies and tips below can help with the adjustment process that everyone will have to endure.
- Honesty is the Best Policy – This is especially pertinent if you and your spouse are just beginning the divorce process. If your child or children are old enough to understand and process what’s going on, being upfront and honest can go a long way towards easing the burden. You and your spouse should try to set aside differences just long enough to have a reasonable and calm conversation with your children about what divorce looks like, why you two have decided to start the process, and certainly underscoring that it’s no child’s fault.
- Keep a Routine – During a divorce, children will benefit from keeping their normal, day-to-day schedule as much as possible. Of course, if you and your spouse are now living in separate places, this will make things more difficult, but putting your children’s lifestyles first will give them a foundation to rely on while you and your spouse work on negotiations. Along the way, it’s important to watch for behavioral changes in your children as that might be a sign of additional issues, which could require professional help.
- Limit Fighting Near the Kids – Younger children especially will absorb the emotions and difficulties of a divorce, so you and your spouse should do what you can to limit fighting while they’re in the room (or within earshot). It’s vital that your children feel as comfortable and welcome, even when you and your spouse are locked in battle.
Your children’s needs will be the first priority in any divorce. Making sure they’re taken care of and comfortable is a big part of any successful separation. The team at Garretson & Holcomb, LLC understands that and has been helping Butler and Warren County families work through these issues for some time. Call us today at 513-863-6600 to learn more.
